Ok, first off, I wanna say that YOU are great and I’m happy you’re here. Seriously!
But why am I starting off with this?
Because being attractive doesn’t JUST have to do with your looks, it also comes out of loving yourself. And when you love yourself, people are attracted to you, they want to be around you. They gravitate towards you.
And so I wanted to start by encouraging you down the path of self-love. 🙂
Now of course I will be talking about more than this, but I feel like it’s important to mention this in the beginning and I really do hope you find the rest of my thoughts and tips helpful!
Side Note: Let me know your thoughts on these tips and what you think makes people attractive in the comments down below. I’d love to hear!
Ok, it can be SO hard to be truly open and be yourself; especially when people (whether love interests, colleagues, potential friends, etc.) have seemed to reject that in the past.
However, a 2019 study found that acting authentically is the successful strategy of those who have long-term happy relationships.
I KNOW, it can be hard to be yourself fully (I’ve done it too and had bad results), but because I didn’t fully shut myself off, and I decided to open up again and show the real me, I was able to make close friends and have the incredible husband I have now.
Disclaimer: Now, I’m not saying that if you have the tendency to speak your mind and say things that can be cutting, that this is what you should do. I think it’s easy to see things that are bad habits as “us” or “apart of us.” But the truth is, we learned that from somewhere. And whether that was from our mother or father (or someone else), it’s good to break those habits and treat others the way we would want to be treated. 🙂
2. Prioritize Yourself
Make time throughout your day for you whether it be through exercising, reading, self-care, or whatever hobby you have. As an attractive woman, you need to put yourself before others at times. This isn’t selfish. It’s healthy.
It shows others that you know how to look after yourself and sets the tone for relationships. That way, if someone who is a user wants to befriend you, this will help keep them away if they see you have clear & healthy boundaries.
It also means you can help others without burning yourself out and communicates to others that your help is valuable.
And in the end, a confident woman with healthy boundaries is someone others look up to and see as attractive.
A 2009 study from Cardiff, Wales found that people who smile more may actually feel happier. And a 2013 study found that, when faces differed only in whether they were smiling or not, people preferred the smiling faces.
Now I’m NOT saying that you have to or that if you’re having a bad day or, just not feeling it, that you should smile anyway. Not at all! But it is an option if you want to appear more attractive.
A smile equals warmth, openness, and calmness. It really goes a long way. 🙂
4. Personal Growth
Attractive women focus on developing themselves by creating personal goals, starting new hobbies, and finding growth opportunities. This winning combo of humility from learning new skills and confidence in eventually mastering them will make you appear quietly self-assured without being arrogant.
And think about it, who did you feel attracted to or gravitate towards in school or work? Or who did you see others want to gravitate towards? Well it might have been that guy or girl who was confident in themselves and was leading the way in inspiring people to do new things and grow.
5. Take Responsibility
Rather than complaining, learn to own your mistakes, environment, and actions. Think about it; have you ever been around someone who complained frequently? Did it may you want to hang out with them in the future?
So if you wanna move away from this, then try doing a 30-day challenge and not complain. Instead, change those complaints to things you’re thankful for and think about how you could take responsibility. I promise you, you will be more happy others will want to be around you more.
Beauty requires maintenance and exercise helps maintain the body from the inside out. Not only will you feel stronger and healthier on the outside, but you’ll also have the confidence on the inside. And if you’re new to exercise, start small and find what type of workout best suits you.
Also, you don’t have to go to a gym or do an at home workout; there are so many ways to burn calories that can be fun. Things like:
- Dance party
- Ultimate Frisbee
- Play Catch
Being able to hold a meaningful and interesting conversation is a trait of an attractive person.
And whether you’re dating or trying to make friends; someone who can make incredible conversation is someone that’s easy to be attracted to.
So try some simple things like reading interesting books or articles or listen to some great documentaries. I can’t tell you how many times someone held me captive by the interesting topics they knew. 🙂
Honestly, it’s sad but simple, if you hate yourself, you subconsciously believe that you don’t deserve good things. And that can mean good relationships. So in practicing self-love, you are increasing your own self-worth as well and will repel those who are toxic and attract those who want a meaningful relationship.
You can start by writing down 5 things you like or love about yourself each day. It something quick & simple and I’d encourage you to try it for 3-5 months.
And if you WANT, you can also follow it by deciding to stop one SMALL bad habit that you have. A lot of the time, our bad habits are what make us hate ourselves. And if you start with something small and stay consistent with it (not doing more or less), you can break it. And this will also give you confidence to change other things in your life once you’ve conquered this one small thing. It’s like a snowball affect. 🙂
9. Be a Good Listener
When people know they’re being listened to attentively, they’re more likely to trust you since, technically, they understand that you’re not getting any immediate benefit yourself by listening to them—it simply shows that you care.
Also, how many times in the past could you tell someone wasn’t listening to you; they were zoning you out or waiting for you to be finished so they could say their own thing? Now think about someone who has done the opposite; didn’t you want to talk and hang out with them more?
Attractiveness is not just about what you eat or how you look, it’s how you treat others and even how you treat yourself that affects the way you’ll be perceived. And thankfully, these are all simple habits that anyone can adopt!
And lastly, let me know your thoughts on these tips and what you think makes people attractive in the comments down below. I’d love to hear!