How to Bring Back the Romance: One Simple Thing You Can Do

Long-term relationships are so beautiful. It’s a wonderful way to grow together and fall even deeper in love. And if you’re married, then it’s so important to know how to keep that romance alive.

While there are a lot of wonderful things you can do to increase the romantic feelings, there’s just one action that’ll really help set things in motion.

It’s being intentional. I’m not talking about making sure to say “I love you” every day or telling them that they’re attractive.

Those things are important and they do go a long way, but there’s a different kind of intentionality you can adopt.

This kind of intentionality can save your romance with your spouse, and help you to learn how to romance even better. It goes beyond the simple and thoughtful tasks. It strikes at the very heart of knowing someone and learning how you can make them feel loved and heard. And it also helps bring back the romance.

So here are some ways to act out this kind of intentionality, and thoughts on how it can benefit your life and romance.

How to Romance Your Partner

So you probably already know that yes, listening is a big deal in a relationship. It makes the person feel important.

But I want to take it one step further.

When I first started dating my now husband, I had no idea how intentional of a man he was. And I will never forget one moment that made me feel so loved and seen.

It was August and our relationship was still very fresh. I posted on Facebook (yes, this was a long time ago) playfully that if someone wanted to get me an Iron Man cake for my birthday (I’m a bit of a nerd), I would be so happy. Well he saw that and around five months later, he had specially ordered an Iron Man cake for my birthday.

I remember vaguely having had the subject brought up in one of our previous conversations. He had seen the post and we quickly talked about it. Then in January, he actually surprised me and made a dream of mine come true.

This wasn’t the only time he had done something like this either. In fact, he was intentional to hear what I wanted all throughout our relationship and surprised me with what I hadn’t thought of in weeks or even months.

The first thing he was doing was listening, and the second was being intentional to remember and fulfill a dream of mine.

You shouldn’t just listen with the small things or what you personally deem as important. You need to remember their interests and dreams and take into account how you can bless and surprise them.

Being intentional in the way of letting someone know that you appreciate them or that you’re proud of them is very important. But romancing them and surprising them with exactly the things they wanted or needed is taking things to a whole different level of intentionality.

Other Ways You Can Apply This

Well let’s say your partner or spouse really likes sushi and they express interest in a certain Japanese restaurant.

You may not have the time or money to do it right then, but you can still take note of it and remember to do it sometime in the future.

It’s a great way to get out and romance, but also have them feel heard, important, and surprised. Also, I may or may not have taken that from a real life experience with my husband.

Or if you know that they keep looking at a specific location they want to visit, or there’s an accessory or appliance they’ve been wanting, then take note of these things as well.

Save up for it and then surprise them with it! It’s such a great way to build a stronger bond and redevelop intimacy in your relationship.

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Keeping the romance alive whether you’re newly married or not is so crucial to the future of the relationship. You want to make your partner feel loved, appreciated, and very supported all throughout the years.

So start to develop a deep intentionality with their desires and needs, look out for their love languages, and watch as you both start to romance each other.