How to Be More Confident: 9 Ways You Can Get Rid of Insecurities

I’ve grown up with insecurities my entire life, and it’s probably something you’ve dealt with for a long time too.

But right now, it’s something I’m trying to work through, and I want to help you out in your journey to becoming self-confident as well.

Don’t ever believe lies like, “Well this is just who I am,” or “I’m always going to be this way, it’s just way too hard to change.” It’s not. You’ve got this and you’re stronger than you think! 💪 

And I don’t care about where you are on your journey to becoming more confident, I just hope that these ideas down below can help you when it comes to living a better life and trusting in your abilities.

So scroll and read over these tips on how to be more confident and getting rid of self-doubt, and see how you can start believing in yourself right now.

1. Get Rid of Limiting Beliefs With Bridge Statements

Limiting beliefs are thoughts like, “Well, I could never get a better job because I never finished college.” Or, “I could never find someone who really loved me.”

They’re the negative things you’ve told yourself for years that have held you back from living a happier life.

And the best thing you can do with these lies is to write down each, and start to create “bridge statements” that will eventually move you over to positive self-talk and belief.

Bridge statements are thoughts like, “Well I guess it’s not impossible for me to find a better job,” or, “I suppose it’s possible that I could eventually find someone that genuinely loves me.”

This helps transition your brain from the complete negative into a space where you start to see the possibility of better things happening to you. And then once your mind is in that transitional space, you can eventually start taking on fully positive beliefs.

Using bridge statements is probably one of the best tips on how to be confident. They’re great for boosting your self-esteem and getting rid of negative self-talk.

2. Get Rid of People Who Hurt Your Confidence

Do you have a bad friend (or friends) who is constantly telling you that you’re not good enough in some way? Or maybe they’re making small remarks about how you look, or how you do something. 

And they’re small enough that you feel like you can’t really call them out on it.

Get rid of those kind of people immediately.

They’re not worth your time and you deserve so much better. Anybody who doesn’t help build up your confidence, but instead tears it down, shouldn’t be in your life.

3. Celebrate Progress Even if It’s Small

Use any excuse to celebrate yourself and the progress you’ve made so far when it comes to cultivating and maintaining your confidence.

I don’t care how small it is, it’s so important that you celebrate your wins and milestones so that you don’t get discouraged and stop progressing.

Being confident isn’t always easy, so you need all the help you can get (even if it’s from yourself).

4. Curate Your Social Media Feed

Social media is a great place to start when it comes to getting rid of things that hurt your level of confidence. And I’m not saying you have to get rid of it completely!

But if there are certain people or topics that you find yourself frequently comparing yourself to, then it’s probably best if you take a break or find a way to get rid of those things from your home feed.

And then start following encouraging people and topics that help boost your confidence. It’s such a simple way to help you create a more positive mindset.

5. Find People Who Will Encourage You to Grow

If you want to really learn how to build confidence, then this step is necessary.

Plain and simple, once you’ve gotten rid of the negative people in your life, fill it with friends who are going to push your forward.

So find people who are already going in the same direction you want to go in. Grow with them and get advice from those who are further along than you.

If you’re dealing with a big lack of confidence then surrounding yourself with positive and encourage people is a must.

6. Daily Affirmations 

I wrote an entire post on positive affirmations that can help change the way you think when you pair them with action.

I promise, these really do help, so give them a try and see how they start influencing your beliefs around your self-confidence.

Or if you want to go the bridge statement route, you can start using these once you’ve fully started to believe in your bridge statements.

7. Try New Small Things

If you want to better yourself and build up your confidence by trying new things, then start small.

It’s easy to want to try some new activity, start big, get discouraged when you see that you’re not doing as well as others, and then give up discouraged. And then you’re wondering what’s wrong with you.

Hint: there’s nothing wrong with you. Everyone fails at something new.

But if you want some quick wins that’ll help you feel confident, then try some simple and fun activities that’ll help boost your confidence as you see yourself succeed.

You can do amazing things!

8. Embrace Who You Really Are

Sometimes the people we grew up with really do hurt how we see ourselves or the things we’re into. It’s essentially the breeding ground for low self-confidence.

They make us feel like the things we take an interest in are strange or weird. But they’re not, they’re a part of you and they’re fine.

Everyone is into unique things.

And the people that made you feel small for them have things going on internally that they’re not dealing with.

So it’s ok to move on from them and love yourself. Embrace the things that you love while also embracing yourself.

9. Understand That Setbacks Will Happen

Setbacks are going to happen and that’s perfectly ok. When you’re learning how to boost confidence and change how you think, you will mess up.

And that happens to everyone, so don’t get discouraged, just see it as a part of the process.

It’s something you will move past and get better at, and eventually, you’ll finally have high self-confidence and incredible self-belief.

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