I love hanging out with friends, heading to a coffee shop, and enjoying good conversation. It’s a relaxed and fun way to stay connected and even try new things. You get to create new memories with those you care about most.
But even as a social person, I genuinely love doing things alone too.
Solo dates give me the chance to have new experiences without waiting around for everyone’s schedule to sync. And honestly, they’re one of the best ways to practice self-care and love by growing in independence and connecting with my interests.
I think of it as having a relationship with myself. If you’re in a relationship with someone, you want to take care of them and make time for them. And if that’s the case, then I’m taking myself out. If I need to go alone to grow in self-connection and confidence (or just have fun), then I’m gonna be making plans for solo dates.
And whether it’s going out for a coffee and journaling session or heading to an art gallery, I’m spending time with myself doing things that I like or have wanted to try for awhile.
I know that doing things alone in public isn’t always easy; it can definitely be a growth process! But with just the right ideas for solo dates, it becomes so much easier. You’re going out with a plan and being mindful of what will make you happy.
So below I have 50 solo date ideas that I think you’ll really like. You’ll find everything from elevated to fun to relaxed. Pick a few that sounds good to you and start filling your calendar with time for you!
Side Note: Let me know in the comments what you like to do on solo dates!
1. Try a new cuisine solo date. Choose a country, look up their dishes, make a list of the ones you want to try, and find a restaurant that makes them. It’s a great way to easily experience a new cuisine.
2. Read up on a specific artist and go to an exhibit featuring their pieces. It’s a great way to notice the details and appreciate their work more.
3. Book a coffee tasting at a third-wave coffee house. Just did this recently and couldn’t recommend it enough. It wasn’t something the owners even did, but they were happy to and made the experience so much fun. Also, I got to try some really good coffee from different regions. 🤷♀️
4. Do a journal and coffee solo date at a cafe that’s not from this century. So think old pharmacies and historic 100 year old eateries.
5. Do some spontaneous baking. May I suggest this plum galette? It’s super easy and makes you kind of feel like you’re living in the French countryside.
6. Audiobook + coffee + dark chocolate + scrolling Pinterest. Also, Pride and Prejudice is a good option for this kind of date. 👌
7. Morning farmer’s market run. Don’t go with a list, just pick a few things that’ll make your day feel special. So think artisanal cheeses, homemade butter, fresh bread, seasonal produce, or even a bouquet.
8. Make an easy 2-ingredient pasta like strozzapreti. It requires no pasta making machine and the texture is amazing.
9. Go to the opera. It’s normally not expensive, feels old-money, and you get to dress up (for you).
10. Have an elevated solo date night at home. Pick out the cuisine, courses, and playlist. Then take out the china (or thrift some) and light the candles.
11. Have a solo date at a high-end and/or historic hotel. Enjoy some coffee and sweets in their main room or cafe, and take in the atmosphere.
12. Grab a coffee and do an early morning walk through a beautiful park. No one’s there and it kind of feels like you’re walking through your own private estate.
13. Do a solo cheese tasting. Head to a store and grab some cheeses at random (or plan it out), slice them up, and enjoy your own tasting.
14. Hunt for a “you spot” that becomes a regular place where you spend time with yourself. Explore some pretty parks, nature trails, or even balcony hangout areas on tall buildings. Find a spot where you feel relaxed and can take in the beauty. Then enjoy a meal you either packed or ordered.
15. Have a picnic on a lake or ocean beach. Pack or maybe make a Trader Joe’s run and grab your favorite snacks, drinks, sweets, and maybe a full meal.
16. Books + Picnic at the park. If you don’t live near an ocean or lake, head to a pretty park with books, some good food, maybe a playlist for background music, and enjoy your solo day.
17. Fancy breakfast for one. Get the nice French butter, the baguette from the small bakery, fresh berries, eggs, bacon, muesli, Greek yogurt, and artisanal coffee. Then light a candle and put on some relaxing French or Italian music with the windows wide open.
18. Bike ride and coffee run. Pick out a cute coffee shop and then bike there on a nice sunny day. Then get your favorite drink to-go and bike to a park or another nice place to relax.
19. Foreign film + recipe from that country. Pick a foreign film and then make and enjoy a dinner (or just a dessert) that’s from the country where the film was made.
20. Have a museum morning with zero agenda. Go as soon as they open, wander around slowly, and let yourself stop and take in the details. Pause when you feel curious and even bring a notebook to write down the pieces that made you feel something.
21. Do a bookstore crawl + get something small to enjoy at each place. Pick 2 or 3 independent bookstores, browse slowly, and grab something small at each one (think a used book, a postcard, etc.). End with a nice pastry and/or latte and flip through your finds.
22. Take yourself on a solo botanical garden date with a themed photo prompt. This could be shadows, green textures, or even romantic spots. Photograph moments that match and then maybe turn it into a photo gallery on your wall at some point.
23. Do a country-inspired home spa night. So for example, you could do a Japanese-inspired bath ritual, a Turkish hammam night, or even go for a French apothecary skincare vibe. Then pair it with tea from that country.
24. Do an antique mall solo date and give yourself a $20–$30 shopping budget. Search for small things that feel special. So think vintage coupe glasses, a brooch, a dish for your nightstand, a silver piece, etc. It kind of feels like treasure hunting.
25. Do a learn-one-skill date. So choose something small you can learn in just one sitting. This could be tying a silk scarf into a classic French knot, making an affogato correctly, or pulling the perfect espresso shot.
26. Plan a slow morning at a beautiful, historic library. Grab a coffee on the way and spend a few hours reading, researching something you love (or you’re curious about), or writing.
27. Take yourself on an architectural walk date. Pick a neighborhood known for its historic houses or interesting buildings. Walk slowly, take pictures of doorways or details you genuinely love, enjoy the shade of old trees, and maybe stop at a bakery.
28. Do a heritage-themed cooking night that’s inspired by your ancestry. So pick a recipe from your family’s cultural background or a region you feel really connected to. Then shop for the ingredients, and create a beautiful meal just for you. You can even light a candle and put on music from that region to set the vibe.
29. Take yourself on a quiet cemetery or historic church walk. This one might sound a bit odd, but old cemeteries and churches are peaceful, beautiful, and have so much history. Bring a warm drink and walk slowly; it really is grounding.
30. Do a solo ceramics painting session by yourself. Find a local studio where you can paint your own mug, bowl, or decor piece. Make it something you’ll use for breakfasts, tea, journaling sessions, or put on your coffee table. It kind of becomes a little memory of your self-care.
31. Create a slow living morning ritual as an at home solo date. Wake up a bit earlier, make coffee in a beautiful mug, open the windows, put on soft French or Bossa Nova music, and read for around an hour. Let it feel a bit like a movie scene.
32. Head out on a sunrise photo walk. You don’t need expensive equipment, just your phone. Capture the light on buildings, flowers, water, shadows, or even your coffee cup. This is also great if you’re still nervous about going on solo dates and being judged for being out alone.
33. Have a baking night with just one main flavor theme. It doesn’t matter if it’s vanilla, lemon, strawberry, or hazelnut, just pick one theme and make 2–3 mini recipes (like cookies + a latte + a simple cake).
34. Have an at-home tea tasting. Pick 3 different high-quality teas, and take notes like you’re at a professional tasting. You can also pair them with things like sweets, honeys, and/or chocolates.
35. Spend some time at a high-end grocery store. Go aisle by aisle with a basket and pick 3–5 fun items you normally wouldn’t buy. So think imported chocolate, a nice cheese, a good loaf of bread, or a special jam. Then make a little but pretty spread at home.
36. Take yourself on a bookstore date + dinner-for-one at a cute restaurant. Start with some slow browsing, choose a book, then take yourself to dinner with no doomscrolling. Just you, some good food, your thoughts, and maybe your new book.
37. Find a place that does high tea. Look for a restaurant, pretty cafe, or hotel that does high tea for your date. It’s a fun and elevated way spend the evening.
38. Do a vintage-inspired letter-writing date. Buy some beautiful stationery, pour tea or coffee, and write a letter to your future self, a good friend, or someone you really love. Then just seal it with a wax stamp if you want that old-world touch.
39. Take yourself to a historic district and browse the cute shops. Wander into old bookshops, bakeries, antique stores, and small boutiques. It can kind of feel like exploring a European town even if you’re pretty close to home.
40. Pack a thermos of tea or coffee and read on a bench by the water. It doesn’t matter if it’s a lake, ocean, river, or even a fountain, it’s just an easy way to elevate the moment, and it makes everything feel a bit more cinematic.
41. Learn a craft and pick something old-fashioned or hands-on. This could be calligraphy, watercolor painting, bread-making, embroidery, candle-making, or even flower arranging. And then let yourself be bad at it, that’s just apart of the process!
42. Visit a thrift or vintage store with the goal of finding a statement piece. So think a beautiful scarf, a piece of jewelry, a vintage glass, a silver tray, or a leather purse.
43. Do an art night in with just one specific medium. Whether it’s charcoal, watercolor, or ink, pick one and create something while listening to jazz or classical music.
44. Take a public transit ride just for fun. You can choose a beautiful route on a train, tram, or something else, grab a drink, look out the window, and let yourself feel like you’re in a movie.
45. Get yourself a pretty bouquet and rearrange it at home. Buy some flowers and carefully trim, arrange, and vase them. It’s a relaxing solo date and instantly beautifies your space.
46. Find a cozy cafe with live music. Go alone, order a coffee or matcha, and just enjoy the moment. Jazz, acoustic guitar, or piano really gives off a chill, intimate vibe.
47. Take yourself on a library hunt for one obscure topic. Pick something that’s oddly specific like perfume history, medieval cooking, Japanese aesthetics, or Italian Renaissance gardens, and see what your library has. It kind of turns into a bit of an adventure and feels like being a student again for just one day.
48. Attend a lecture, an author talk, or some other cultural event. Some cities have free or low-cost events like history talks, book readings, or cultural lectures. And going alone kinda makes you feel like someone who has a rich inner life (because you do).
49. Do a choose-your-own-adventure city day. Write 6 to 8 prompts on slips of paper. This could be things like, “Go into the next cafe you see,” “Find a blue building and take a picture,” “Buy a pastry you’ve never heard of,” or even “Turn left at the next intersection.” Pull one out at each stop and let the prompts and city guide your experience.
50. Visit local artisans behind the scenes. Look up a few small makers in your area. So think a chocolatier, a ceramic studio, a perfumer, a shoemaker, or a tiny artisanal bakery. Then contact them to see if you can take a tour behind the scenes and learn about their craft.
Grace Moser is the author and founder of Chasing Foxes, where she writes articles to help women create a life they love in big and small ways. She's been a full-time traveler since 2016 and loves sharing her experiences and exploring the world with her husband, Silas. Her lifestyle and travel advice can also be seen on sites such as Business Insider, Glamour, Newsweek, Huffpost, & Apartment Therapy.