One month ago I started this path to becoming Wonder Woman and sharing with others what I learned along the way.
And it definitely wasn’t an easy 4 weeks.
It can be easy to think that you’ll conquer it all, but when you start to really face everything you haven’t worked on for years, the challenge becomes bigger.
You start to listen to lies in your head that “You’ll never make it,” or “You’ll never change,” and then you have to decide fight those thoughts.
And one month ago, I set 5 goals for myself: to become a better listener, not get distracted with my work and setting times for smaller tasks, “the one thing,” fear, and losing 10 pounds.
So in this monthly review, I’m going to go over what happened and what I learned.
The Goals I Was Able to Accomplish
Becoming a Better Listener
I grew up in a family where no one listened to each other.
We were all horrible listeners, so bringing this into my marriage and adult life wasn’t helpful.
And so this month, I set out on my goal to become a better listener. To break this bad habit I had carried since childhood.
How I Planned to Do This:
- Make sure to do active listening. If my husband talks about something that’s on his heart or that he learned, repeat it back to him in the way I understood it.
- If I find that I got distracted, ask him to clarify what he said so I’m being more aware of the times I don’t listen.
- My active listening has improved! I made sure to repeat back to my husband things he was sharing to let him know I was working on this part of me.
- I also worked on becoming more vocal to show that I was engaged. It was always so easy for me to listen and then not have much a response. So to show that I cared what my husband was talking about, I engaged him more in conversation which also pushed me to listen better. If I didn’t listen, then how could I carry on the conversation?
- Having Silas know when I got distracted helped me to make sure I didn’t miss a thing he said. But it also pushed me to make sure I was listening so I wouldn’t have to make him repeat himself.
Final Thoughts on Goal:
Becoming a better listener wasn’t the easiest task. In fact, it was easy for me to get angry with myself or think, “Gosh will this ever change?” But as I kept with it, I found that I was starting to get better. I still have a lot of work to do with this one, but we’re both happy to see the progress in this one.
For this last month my plan was to get to the point where when fear pops up, I can instantaneously recognize it and say the truth.
Plain and simple, I wanted to make this apart of my thought process.
How I Planned to do This:
- As soon as a thought pops up in my head that’s fear based, I would take control of that thought and put the truth in its place.
- There were a lot more places in my life where I didn’t realized I had struggled with fear. And as I started to face this demon, I started to see others pop up: self-hate, not believing in myself, feeling that I was unworthy of my success, self-sabotaging my success, etc. In short, I had a lot more to take care of this month than I thought. So learning how to deal with these things above became a HUGE focus.
What Didn’t Get Accomplished
As I said above, my focus for this month ended up revolving around some major issues I didn’t know I had.
I had made a plan to focus on business related goals and weight loss, but when I started focusing on fear and other inner issues, I realized where I needed to set my gaze.
Because without these problems of self-hate or imposter syndrome being addressed, I wouldn’t be able to move on my other goals.
These issues wouldn’t get addressed and would continue to hinder me in my success.
And facing these things had me spending a lot of time with God and praying through things and seeking out his guidance. This helped me in knowing what I should do if I wanted to see real progress and change in myself and life.
Side Note: It’s crazy how much I’ve gotten to know God’s heart for me and my life. He’s really helped me to face the lies I was telling myself and find the truth.
And I feel this is very important for you as well…
A lot of the time we make plans to work on different areas in our lives, and when we don’t see them succeed, we get frustrated and don’t find what’s keeping us from accomplishing our goals.
I had a lot of time to face some demons this month that were keeping me from going after what I wanted to do in my life.
And God and my husband played a huge role in helping me with this.
There were a lot of question I wasn’t asking myself that they both would put into my mind.
Why was it that I was doing a certain thing? Was there a reason behind this action? Why didn’t I feel worthy?
And I realized that I had to take time to ask myself questions as well.
When you ask the right question, you’ll get the right answer. When you ask a more direct question, you’ll get a more direct answer.
When I stopped asking myself, “What’s wrong with me?” And instead started asking, “Well what self-limiting beliefs am I buying into that’s keeping me from accomplishing this task?” I was able to find an answer that would help me get past it.
So as you go through this yourself, I really want to encourage you to not get discouraged if you’re not seeing progress in certain areas. Instead, focus on the underlying issues that are keeping you from them so you can have success in accomplishing your goals in life.
When you learn to become a complete person, your goals in life become complete.
A BIG Thank You for the Support You Guys Have Given Me Throughout This Process!
I really do want to thank you for all your supportive emails and comments you’ve sent my way! It’s so awesome to hear your thoughts on my ideas and your own struggles as well. I can’t thank you enough for being apart of this!
And I’m really glad we get to go through our own personal journeys together. We’re all stronger when we do this together!
Next week, I’ll be going over my new monthly goals, and I’m excited to hear yours too! See you then!